| What is happening | Interpretation | Emotion | Alternative Reasoning |
|---|---|---|---|
| Lea is growing fatter. | She isn’t practicing self-discipline. She doesn’t take into consideration the people she love. | Anger, annoyance | Self-discipline isn’t the only thing Lea needs to succeed. She needs a new environment. I am mind-reading when I tell her that she isn’t considering the effects of her actions to her loved ones. She does. |
| Lea isn’t able to save. | She doesn’t think about the future. She ignores me. | Frustration, impatience | Mind-reading. I don’t know that. I believe she does think about these things probably more often than I assume. It’s just that she has deeper habits to tackle. |
| Lea shifts subjects when I share something. | She cares more of herself than me. | Annoyance, feeling ignored | I am jumping to conclusions and mind-reading. I am not sure if my conclusion was correct. I need to ask her what’s happening in her head when she does it. |
| I am spending my time in a less optimal relationship. I could be better somewhere else. | Jealous | I need to honestly weigh the negative things happening in this relationship vis a vis the positives. Only then can I avoid “generalizations” and mental filters. |