|What is happening||Interpretation||Emotion||Alternative Reasoning|
|Lea is growing fatter.||She isn’t practicing self-discipline.|
She doesn’t take into consideration the people she love.
|Anger, annoyance||Self-discipline isn’t the only thing Lea needs to succeed. She needs a new environment. I am mind-reading when I tell her that she isn’t considering the effects of her actions to her loved ones. She does.|
|Lea isn’t able to save.||She doesn’t think about the future.|
She ignores me.
|Frustration, impatience||Mind-reading. I don’t know that. I believe she does think about these things probably more often than I assume. It’s just that she has deeper habits to tackle.|
|Lea shifts subjects when I share something.||She cares more of herself than me.||Annoyance, feeling ignored||I am jumping to conclusions and mind-reading. I am not sure if my conclusion was correct. I need to ask her what’s happening in her head when she does it.|
|I am spending my time in a less optimal relationship. I could be better somewhere else.||Jealous||I need to honestly weigh the negative things happening in this relationship vis a vis the positives. Only then can I avoid “generalizations” and mental filters.|