Some guidelines
- Let memories not in the relationship graph or narrative arise.
- Everything you put in the letter must come under the heading of one or more of the three recovery categories.
- Do it alone.
- Do it in one session.
- Do it for at least an hour.
- When writing, have your graph/narrative and list of apologies, forgiveness, and SES in front of you.
- Try to be concise.
- Focus on the most important unsaid things.
- You may repeat the significant things you said to your pet.
- Don’t worry if writing the letter isn’t emotional.
- You don’t have to group the letter according to category.
- Use your pat’s name.